Caring for Yourself While Caring for Others
How to Care for Yourself When Caring for Others
Caring for others – whether as a hospice volunteer, family member, or friend – is a deeply meaningful act. It’s also one of the most emotionally tender things you can do. You show up for people in their hardest moments, offering love, presence, and comfort.
But here’s something most caregivers forget: you can’t pour from an empty cup.
Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish – it’s essential. When you nurture your own heart and body, you’re able to give more freely, more patiently, and with more joy.
Let’s talk about some simple, compassionate ways to care for yourself while you care for others.
- Give Yourself Permission to Feel: Caring for people near the end of life can stir up many emotions – sadness, love, gratitude, anger, grief. Allow yourself to feel what comes up.
There’s no need to “be strong” all the time. Tears, laughter, and quiet reflection all have their place. Talk to someone you trust, journal your thoughts, or take a quiet walk to process what you’re feeling.
- Set Healthy Boundaries: Boundaries are not walls. Think of them more like gentle fences that protect your peace.
If you ever feel overwhelmed or emotionally drained, it’s okay to step back and rest. Share with your Volunteer Coordinator or care team how you’re feeling; they’re there to support you, too.
Saying “I need a break” doesn’t mean you care less – it means you care wisely.
- Take Time to Rest: Fatigue can sneak up on caregivers. Be intentional about resting. Even short breaks make a difference.
Try small moments of restoration: sit in the sun, stretch, breathe deeply, or enjoy a quiet cup of coffee. Your mind and body need downtime to reset and recharge.
- Stay Connected: Caring for others can sometimes feel isolating, especially when you’re supporting those who are nearing the end of life.
Reach out to other volunteers, friends, or support groups who understand this unique kind of work. Connection reminds you that you’re not alone and shared stories can be a source of comfort and strength.
- Do Something Just for You: It doesn’t have to be big or fancy, just something that fills your soul and makes you feel good!
Read a book, garden, cook your favorite meal, take a walk, or spend time with loved ones. Remember: Joy is fuel for compassion.
- Reflect on the Meaning: Sometimes, it helps to pause and remember why you do this work.
Caring for others at the end of life is a gift, not just for them, but for you, too. You’re witnessing love in its purest form, one moment at a time. Reflect on the beauty in that, and let it remind you that your efforts truly matter.
You Deserve Care, Too
At Holly’s Haven, we often say that hospice care is about presence – being there for someone fully. The same applies to you. Be present for yourself, too.
You can only give your best care when you’re also caring for your own heart, health, and happiness.
So take that nap, make that call, take that deep breath – you deserve it!
Thinking About Volunteering?
If you feel called to offer companionship, comfort, and connection to others, we’d love to have you on our Holly’s Haven volunteer team.
Our volunteers bring light and love into the lives of patients and families. We’ll make sure you feel supported and cared for every step of the way.
Learn more about volunteering with us and join a community that cares deeply – for others and for you.
